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Sinaya: A Philippine Journal for Senior High School Teachers and Students

Theme

Social Sciences and Business

Research Advisor

Ms. Liezl Rillera-Astudillo

Abstract

This study examined the long-term emotional and relational consequences of being "friend-zoned" by a cross-sex best friend among Filipino young adults. Nine participants aged 18–35 met the inclusion criteria of having experienced unreciprocated romantic interest toward a cross-sex best friend; “best friend” was operationalized by relationship duration, mutual emotional disclosure, frequent contact, and self-identification as best friends, situating the inquiry within the Philippine cultural context. Data were collected through in-depth, semi-structured interviews that were analyzed using Giorgi’s descriptive phenomenological method, bracketing, to articulate the essential structure of the experience, with reflexive memo writing and an audit trail to support rigor. The findings traced a trajectory from initial hurt (shock, embarrassment, and self-doubt) through coping (distancing, reframing, self-improvement, and seeking social support) toward relational recalibration (boundary-setting and negotiated closeness). Participants’ narratives reflected Filipino relational norms, such as maintaining harmony, preserving dignity, and prioritizing the bond, which shaped disclosure, coping, and the decision to sustain or loosen the friendship. Anticipated impacts on future relationships included greater caution, clearer boundaries, and a refined sense of self-worth and readiness. The study contributes a culturally grounded account of unreciprocated love within best-friend relationships in the Philippines and highlights practical implications for counseling and psychoeducation: validating complex grief, scaffolding boundary-setting skills, and aligning support with culturally salient values that influence emotional expression and relationship maintenance.

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